From the Heart: The Power of Personalized Wedding Vows

May 22, 2019

As a wedding celebrant, I have the privilege of witnessing the exchange of vows, a pivotal moment in every couple's journey. The Australian Marriage Act 1961 mandates all couples to exchange legal vows, but I always encourage my couples to go a step further – to personalize their vows. This not only complies with the legal requirements but also adds a unique and memorable touch to their special day.

Through the years, I've been moved by countless vows, each special in its own way. Yet, there was one particular set of vows that left an indelible mark on my heart. The effort and emotion the bride and groom poured into their words were remarkable. Their vows weren’t just promises; they were a beautiful narrative of their love, transformation, and commitment.

Today, I’m thrilled to share the bride’s vow – a poem titled “I Do”, which she graciously allowed me to publish. This poem is not just a vow; it's a testament to their journey and love.

I Do

Before I met you,

I was in a very bad place,

I thought I’d already experienced love,

I just wanted my own space.

I look back now,

And I realised,

This was when I was most lost.

I’d forgotten what family was,

I’d forgotten who my friends were,

I’d often think to myself,

“What has my past actions cost?”

And then I met you,

On a cold winter’s day,

By destiny you may think,

But coincident I’d say.

You’ve opened my eyes,

As our relationship ascends,

You’ve shown me what a man should be,

This was the beginning of an end.

You have so much love for your family,

Which I admire,

You always put others first,

You don’t even realise how much you inspire.

You’ve challenged me so much,

Especially when our bickers worsen,

You’ve made me stride,

To be a better person.

I thank my past for giving,

Me sadness,

Now that I’m with you,

I now know happiness.

So what is love?

Love is your mother,

Preaching that if you’re

Willing to do something,

To do it with all your heart.

Love is my father,

Giving us a life he never had,

Never asking for any help,

In doing his part.

You see, love isn’t about

How much we do,

Love is about how much

We put into what we do.

And you know how much I hate promises,

But I promise you this,

All of the following, sealed with a kiss

I promise to stand by you,

Through the ups and downs,

The uncontrollable laughters,

And the miserable frowns.

I promise to accept who you are,

Even when you fuel my fire,

I promise to dream with you,

And when those dreams come true,

We will aim even higher.

I promise to have an open mind,

And be open and honest,

To obsess over muse with you,

And pretend that they’re my biggest interest.

I promise to be adventurous,

And find spontaneous things to do,

I promise to be grateful for the little things,

And cherish you!

I promise to adapt to change,

And challenge you as you have challenged me,

I promise to learn and grow with you,

Take life as it comes, I know it’s not easy

So my love, from this day forward,

We’re in this together,

Don’t ever give up on me,

I need you forever.

And if you ever wondered what I valued,

The answer is you,

And if you ever wondered if I love you, today, forever and always,

The answer is “I Do”.

Credit: Fiona Lee

This heartfelt vow, along with the groom's equally touching words, was left to me as a gift – a treasure I hold dear. Their trust and the honor of being part of their story is something I cherish deeply. These vows now reside in my treasure box, a reminder of the beautiful bond I witness in my role as a celebrant, accompanying me for life.

Photo Credit: Dennis Tan @dennistancreative

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