What Do I Need to Write for My Personalised Wedding Vows?

Writing your own wedding vows can feel both exciting and intimidating. It’s a beautiful chance to express your love in your own words—but many couples find themselves staring at a blank page, wondering, “Where do I even begin?”

As your celebrant, I’m here to guide you every step of the way—and yes, that includes your vows!

The good news is: there’s no right or wrong way to write personalised vows. What matters most is that they’re genuine, heartfelt, and true to who you are as a couple.

What’s the Purpose of Wedding Vows?

Vows are more than just words—they’re the promises you’re making to your partner as you begin your marriage. They’re not a performance or a speech for the guests.

🎤 Your vows are not the place to thank your parents, bridal party, or suppliers—that’s what your wedding speech at the reception is for.
💍 Your vows are private words shared publicly—directed to the person standing in front of you, not the people seated behind them.

They reflect:

• Your values and intentions as life partners
• The unique journey you’ve shared
• Your vision for the future together

Some vows are poetic and romantic. Others are simple, sweet, or even funny. The best ones are simply real and personal.

What Do I Need to Include?

Here’s a simple structure that many couples find helpful:

1. Start with what you love about your partner
• What do you admire about them?
• When did you know you wanted to spend your life with them?
2. Reflect on your journey together
• What meaningful moments have shaped your relationship?
• How has your partner changed your life?
3. Make your promises
• These can be sincere, romantic, light-hearted, or all of the above
• Promise to support, encourage, grow, or simply stand by them always
4. Close with intention
• Reaffirm your commitment with heartfelt lines like
  “I choose you today and every day,”
  “This is my vow to you,” or
  “For the rest of our lives.”

💡 Tip: Aim for around 150–250 words. Spoken aloud, this is just 1–2 minutes—short enough to stay focused, long enough to make an impact.

A Few Prompts to Get You Started

If you’re not sure where to begin, try using these thought-starters:

• “I love you because…”
• “You’ve taught me to…”
• “I promise to always…”
• “With you, I feel…”
• “Today I choose you because…”

Final Thoughts

Your vows don’t need to be polished or poetic—they just need to be yours. Speak from the heart, be true to your voice, and remember: you’re talking to your partner, not delivering a speech.

As your celebrant, I’ll guide you through the process and help create a moment that’s personal, relaxed, and deeply meaningful.

If you're unsure where to start or want feedback on your draft, I'm always happy to offer gentle guidance and support.

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